No, but I have seen a documentary about some place in easter Europe where it is custom for the Groom to kidnap the Bride. At that moment she doesn't even know she is a bride and they somehow force her to agree.

So basically the guy just walks through the city and picks some girl that he thinks isn't married yet. If she isn't she has to agree.

What a stupid society that accepts this kind of behavior.

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i asia they have some very weird traditions can you imagine all the kids from such a marriage dont know who there father really is. 

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I am not really suprised, considering that in those areas they kill little baby girls, because they tend to bankrupt the family when they marry (the father of the bride pays everything) and because they have to pay the father of the groom (or something like that).

Anyways, the probably have a severe shortage of women and thats where this weird tradition may come from.

I think its a shame that their society is such, that they feel the need to kill their baby girls. Naturally this is against the law, but who can proof anything in the urban areas. 

???? What ?????

Does this mean they each have the same number of women or just one.

I mean is it like 10 men and 1 women or 10 men and 10 women?

the men only have one woman, one woman have to share for four or five brothers. this people are more like Indians rather than chinese, and one of the resaon they gave for doing is that, the area where they are in doesnt have much farm land so if the land is given over to the elder son the rest of the brothers will strave. by each of them having only one wife(ie. the same Female) they also have less mouth to feed. This is a very remote area and thats why his custom has survive.

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Your explanation makes sense too, expecially when things happen in remote area.

Here's what I know about marriage in India but not to the extreme like your story: -

1) Arranged marriage is still suprisingly popular in India. Among my ex-colleagues from India, 7 out of 10 were arranged married. Most of them were from Chennai and Madras.

2) One of them having skin just like an Indian, but he's a Muslim. He was practicing culture like this: -

If you are the eldest son and you have 5 younger sisters, then you can't marry until all your sisters are married. And you have to buy wedding gift, usually gold necklace or ring for each of your sister's marriage.

3) In old days, if the husband passed away, the wife has to be burnt alive, together in the ceremony. Hopefully there's no more such practice today.

It was a shame but for surviving such practice is still happening. I believe fetile land in himalaya are very limited. Most of the land are consist of mountain and rocks.

The Indians said they are poor yet they have gold jewery decorating every part of their body from head to toes. Also they are proud of it. I should open a gold jewery store in India.

I wouldn’t call Indian gold real gold, I had a ring that a Indian friend of mine got me at resembles a toy ring that I child would get from a candy machine.

Not every Indians wearing gold from candy machine or fake gold. If they do, perhaps they just can't afford the real one and ladies just want to look good. And it's part of their cultures, you know, making them more shiny and attractive. Not all people wanted to be born in darker skins.

I guess we will never completely understand each others culture, we can only accept it.

I had a chat once with an Indian lady at work. Her marriage was pre-arranged and she was completely fine with it. I asked her how she could love a guy she never met before and she told me that she "learned" to do so. Whatever I said, she was totally fine with it and thought thats the most normal thing in the world. I guess I will never understand why, but I can accept their belief.

Things that should really be stopped there:

Genital mutilation of women

Murder to save the honor and face of the family

Those things are far worse than marriage rituals. There is a high number of unreported cases that will never be known to us. 

Andre

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Understanding would be tough so i would just accept the fact that we are not alone in this world.

Hmmm... if not mistaken, in Kalimantan area (Indonesia) there was this marriage ritual...

- To propose a marriage to the girl family, the guy had to give a present to be check by the girl father. The present required was a slain head of an adult men. So the guy will chose a random adult, assault them, kill them, chop of his head and give it to the girl family. Why? This tradision was said to prove the guy how manly he was and he was a dependable guy to be eligible for marring their daughter to him.

LOL, So anyone still interested into going to Indonesia?   Of course the government had banned such marriage ritual. But some human still sturborn aint they? We can't be sure, some of the secluded area might still practicing and was not reported to maintain the good name of the country of course.

It's certainly a barbaric ritual, but it is also a way of population control. Maybe at some point Indonesia was so heavily populated, that this ritual developed. 

Andre

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thats seem so sick , but i guess that was a way of live for everyone back then so it seems like nothing.

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